The holidays are here, and for some of us, it’s not about hopping on a plane to grandma’s house. Whether you’re living in a different state from your family, building new traditions with your own kids, have different views, or just feeling like it’s time to do your own thing, the beauty of the season is in making it your own.

The truth is, you’re not alone. A growing number of Americans are moving away from traditional holiday norms, with many prioritizing intimate gatherings or creating new ways to celebrate. In fact, a December 2022 poll by the American Psychiatric Association revealed that 31% of Americans expected heightened stress during the holiday season, with financial concerns and social obligations playing significant roles​. This shift has prompted many to explore simpler, more personal celebrations that feel meaningful.

If you’re not sure where to start, here are some ways to create holiday traditions that feel personal and authentic to you and your family.

Decorate Your Own Home

One of the simplest ways to make the holidays special is to decorate your home in a way that reflects your personality and culture. Make your home a joyful place to be by hanging personal holiday decorations, adding a Kinara for Kwanzaa, or stringing lights to your favorite holiday tunes. Don’t forget the power of scent—candles with notes of cinnamon or frankincense can create a warm, nostalgic atmosphere. (Check out Black Love’s 2024 Gift Guide for the perfect decor items!)

Create a New Family Recipe Book
Black families often communicate love through food, so why not turn those culinary traditions into a family heirloom? Start with your own favorite dishes and add recipes from friends who feel like family. You can even make it digital so everyone has access and updates it annually.

Curate a “Chosen Family” Holiday Celebration
If your biological family isn’t in the picture or can’t make it, lean into the beauty of chosen family. These are the people who uplift, support, and love you for who you are. Have a potluck, exchange thoughtful gifts, or just binge-watch The Preacher’s Wife and debate which scene made you cry the hardest.

Design a Kid-Centric Tradition
For parents, this is your chance to get creative. Whether it’s decorating a mini tree for each child’s room, writing letters to future selves, or a Christmas Eve dance party, make it something your kids will cherish and (hopefully) pass on. Kids thrive on routine, and these rituals help them feel secure and excited during the holidays.

 

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Establish a Morning Tradition
Start the day with something meaningful to you and your household. It could be a family walk, journaling your gratitude, or playing your favorite holiday song as you prep for the day. The point is to start on a high note that’s all yours. This simple step sets the tone and makes the day feel special right from the jump.

Make Giving Back a Priority
Turn the focus outward by volunteering, donating to Black-led organizations, or creating care packages for neighbors. The National Philanthropic Trust reports that 30% of annual charitable donations in the U.S. occur in December, proving the holiday spirit is alive and well. Joining in can make you feel part of something bigger than yourself.

Share the Vibes on Social Media
If you’ve created a dope new tradition, why not share it? Post your stories, your recipes, or your decked-out home with a hashtag like #NewHolidayTradition. Who knows? You might inspire someone else to start their own! Social media can be a powerful way to connect with others who are redefining what the holidays look like.

Treat Yourself!
Sometimes, the best tradition is one for yourself. Whether it’s a spa day, a shopping spree, or dedicating the day to doing absolutely nothing, prioritize what makes you feel at peace. Self-care is essential, especially during the holiday season.